Thursday, October 04, 2007

On Choices

This is on Sandra Dodd's website, on her page The Value of Choices, that talks about why it matters that children be given the freedom to make their own choices:

Arbitrary rules and limits have the characteristic that they entice kids to think about how they can get around them and can even entice kids to cheat and lie. I know a couple of really really great unschooled kids whose parents set limits on their computer use time. The kids used to get up in the middle of the night to use the computer while their parents were asleep. It is an unintended but very very predictable side effect of rules and limits that they always set parents and children up as adversaries (the parents are setting the rules and the children are being required to obey them - these are adversarial positions) and can lead to kids feeling guilty and sneaky when they inevitably bend or even outright break the rules. Avoiding that kind of possibility is one really good reason for not having rules or limits at all. ~Pam Sorooshian
I got to hear Pam speak at the Live and Learn conference in early September, and she was really great. You can order one or all of the talks from this year's conference, and last year's, at the Live and Learn store.

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