Wednesday, October 08, 2008

Daily Groove Message

I thought I'd share this one:

THE DAILY GROOVE ~ by Scott Noelle
www.enjoyparenting.com/dailygroove

:: Don't Explain ::

Being on the leading edge of parenting, you may find yourself explaining to others *why* you parent the way you do.


This can be a good thing when someone has expressed curiosity about it and you're simply sharing information. But it's better *not* to explain yourself if you're trying to *justify* your choices.


Justifying gives away your power. It implies that you need the other person's approval. It undermines your self-confidence and distances you from your Inner Guidance.


The "need" to explain and justify your choices is based on the "need" to be right. But if your parenting choices are "right," and the other person would parent differently, then s/he must be "wrong." Once you get in that right/wrong mode, conflict or interpersonal tension is inevitable.


Instead of explaining your parenting to others, silently remind *yourself* that your choices are right *for you*, and your own approval is all you need.

http://www.ScottNoelle.com
http://dailygroove.net/dont-explain


Feel free to forward this message to your friends!
(Please include this paragraph and everything above.)
Copyright (c) 2008 by Scott Noelle

"Inspiration & Coaching for Progressive Parents"
http://www.ScottNoelle.com
http://www.EnjoyParenting.com

1044 Water Street, Suite 342
Port Townsend, WA 98368
USA


Did I mention that Scott was at the Live and Learn Conference this year? :) This advice applies equally well to your homeschooling style, especially us unschoolers.

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